I never saw Sister Lee Sofer without a smile. I first met her around 1980 when I became a member of the Christian education community of the Pentecostal Assemblies of the World. I had heard about a man who was the epitome of integrity, grace, humility and leadership. That was Elder Edward R. Sofer and in meeting him, I was blessed to meet his wife, Lee. Her smile is as vivid to me today as it was then. Over the years it was clear that her support of her husband and his ministry was strong. She spoke few words, but you always saw them quietly slipping their hands into each others as they walked to the next meeting or the next place. She let his light shine brilliantly and the two were together, hand in hand, always. Even when she later pushed his wheelchair, the bond between them was obvious as she rested her hand on his shoulder or he held her hand as they stopped to talk with people along the way.
You knew in any conversation with her that she was the wife and the mother that all young women should emulate. In delving into the organization's history, I learned how his brilliance shaped the Christian Education ministry and legacy of the denomination, but I also saw her sacrifice shining through at each turn - from the inaugural printing of the Sunday School materials, to the teaching at conventions and the leadership as he took the helm of president more than once. Lee was always there. She was always supportive, but more importantly she and her children were quiet workers in the trenches with him and Lee made sure they all gave everything they had to each project and office, from pastoring, to presiding at national meetings, to his work with the Bishop's Board.
Lee Sofer was not showy or brash. She was neither pushy nor obviously protective of her husband and yet she was his cheerleader and his rear guard. She let his light shine and she supported him quietly and with great grace. Her smile encouraged you and showed gratitude for your love for her husband and her. Her smile warmed you and even calmed you when circumstances seemed difficult.
I am grateful for Lee's children who stood by her and especially for Regina who allowed me to be in her life and her mom's. My prayers are with the family and my memory of Lee Sofer will always include her smile.
Rev. Rosa M. Sailes, EdD
